We have two choices in the way we evaluate life-altering change. You know the old adage about the Chinese symbol for crisis implying both danger and opportunity. I know, I know, it's pretty well-worn. But it has worn well because it's true.
When in crisis, it's easy to identify the threat and slip into the all too familiar feelings that accompany it: anxiety, sadness and, ultimately, depression. It's more difficult to identify an opportunity, but the rewards of leaning that direction are sweeter, including an almost electric-charged feeling of challenge, hope and the resulting self-confidence from having met the enemy and having refused to back down. Would you be willing to learn how to override the tendency to go straight into defense mode if you could? It bears thinking about.
More on the topic of danger and opportunity later (yes, that's a threat!).
This is a busy week for us with a clinic appointment (always a half-day adventure), the opthalmologist and then off to get new glasses. Roger is having day surgery on Thursday for that enlarged lymph node. You'd think we wouldn't have anything to do but sit around and wait to get well, but healing is not a passive process and we are actively involved every single day. It's always something.
Stay tuned.
I am preparing the final version of my break out session on Getting Ready for BIG Change in your life. Your story will be weaved into my message.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing it all right (if there is a "right" way)...it's incredible to watch and be part of the process. It is affirming and challenging at the same time - is there a Chinese symbol for that paradox?
I also know this...that all healing is a process. I realize that my own healing is not life threatening, but it is life stifling if I don't let go and embrace my current reality-in all its glorious opportunities and dangers. Thanks, Candi and Roger.
Sophie send her love.
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Amen, Betsy. "I realize that my own healing is not life threatening, but it is life stifling if I don't let go." Couldn't agree more. Applies to me, too, and the new reality I find myself in need of embracing.
ReplyDeleteAnd, yes, if there is a "right way," Candi and Roger are indeed doing it!